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"Isn't your life kind of a porno???" a mom friend joked via text. "Some days for sure," I replied — yeah, if the porno included children yelling and banging on the bedroom door every 10 minutes, or a toddler stumbling into the living room to find you and your spouse in flagrante delicto.

Welcome to my sexy, messy life.

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a kink and a prayer

Confessions of a Pastor’s Wife

A Kink and a Prayer is a collection of personal essays by a progressive pastor's wife and mother of three who is trying to keep it real about sex and relationship-care. I will make you laugh and blush with the steamy details of how we are keeping the sex alive and fresh in our 20-year marriage.

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Being brave can get messy

akinkandaprayer

Oct 20, 20232 min read

Being brave can get messy

It takes bravery to be our authentic selves. To be open and share our true, and often messy, human experience with others. We don’t...

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Footsiegate

akinkandaprayer

Aug 18, 202313 min read

Footsiegate

I want to share a recent flirtatious encounter PM had with a girlfriend of mine… Spoiler alert: I’m generally aggravated with all parties.

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Cabin fever when you kiss me

akinkandaprayer

Jul 24, 202310 min read

Cabin fever when you kiss me

His expression remains serious, his gaze unflinching, as his fingers' explorative strokes turn into rhythmic circles… Then the inevitable…

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Birthday reflections: good things come to those who wait…

akinkandaprayer

Jun 17, 20232 min read

Birthday reflections: good things come to those who wait…

Molly reflects briefly on becoming another year older.

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The bones are good ;)...a case for flirting while married

akinkandaprayer

May 4, 202314 min read

The bones are good ;)...a case for flirting while married

Molly talks about perspectives on flirting while married.

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Bridging the monkey and the man: what The White Lotus has to say about desire

akinkandaprayer

Mar 16, 202314 min read

Bridging the monkey and the man: what The White Lotus has to say about desire

Molly talks about desire and lust in marriage and what The White Lotus gets right.

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Part 2 of What I've learned after two years of daily sex

akinkandaprayer

Feb 25, 202314 min read

Part 2 of What I've learned after two years of daily sex

Molly continues her discussion of erotic play as an essential ingredient for passionate sex in Part 2 of her reflection on the past 2 years

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On guarding my erotic self (and delay of Part 2)

akinkandaprayer

Feb 17, 20233 min read

On guarding my erotic self (and delay of Part 2)

Molly give a brief update, while reminding herself about something’s she’s learned about her erotic self.

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What I've learned after two years of daily sex: Part 1.

akinkandaprayer

Feb 6, 202312 min read

What I've learned after two years of daily sex: Part 1.

Molly talks about what she’s discovered about desire and passion over the last 2 years. Part 1 of 2.

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Our favorite sex position, just in time for Valentine’s Day: the Lazy Scissor

akinkandaprayer

Jan 21, 20238 min read

Our favorite sex position, just in time for Valentine’s Day: the Lazy Scissor

Molly shares her and PM’s go-to position for relaxed, low-energy sex that scores high for pleasure according to this vulva-owner.

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Mo’ people, mo’ problems: more from PM on ENM, part 2

akinkandaprayer

Jan 6, 202311 min read

Mo’ people, mo’ problems: more from PM on ENM, part 2

In Part 2 of her earlier post, Molly discusses some downsides to ENM, especially as seen from the perspective of an introverted spouse.

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Vomjob: a fellatio myth or reality?

akinkandaprayer

Dec 16, 20227 min read

Vomjob: a fellatio myth or reality?

Molly talks about the urban legend of vomiting while giving head (the vomjob) and shares her own recent experience.

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Mo’ people, mo’ problems, part 1: more from PM on ENM

akinkandaprayer

Dec 3, 20229 min read

Mo’ people, mo’ problems, part 1: more from PM on ENM

Molly talks about swinging and why PM thinks the whole thing is just too much hassle. Part 1 of 2.

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Turkey chaos, amongst other things

akinkandaprayer

Nov 22, 20221 min read

Turkey chaos, amongst other things

Molly expects to have new content next week, due to the holiday.

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What’s so dirty about a little flirty?

akinkandaprayer

Nov 11, 202214 min read

What’s so dirty about a little flirty?

Molly discusses the art of flirting and why she wishes she were better at it.

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Sex math: ENM and PM’s point of view

akinkandaprayer

Oct 28, 20229 min read

Sex math: ENM and PM’s point of view

Molly shares what she’s discovered about PM’s perspective on whether ethical non-monogamy is for him and explains sex math

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New Content Schedule Update

akinkandaprayer

Oct 21, 20223 min read

New Content Schedule Update

Molly discusses the future of A Kink and a Prayer

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You see a cigar, I see a penis: what I see emerging as the crush dust settles

akinkandaprayer

Oct 17, 202214 min read

You see a cigar, I see a penis: what I see emerging as the crush dust settles

In the aftermath of her crush, Molly talks about what she’s learned about herself and about pursuing passion as a married woman in her 40s

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When crushes crush your heart

akinkandaprayer

Oct 2, 202214 min read

When crushes crush your heart

Molly shares about the aftermath of realizing her crush had zero interest in her attention. Alternate title: Did I ever really grow up?

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Is this the end of the road?

akinkandaprayer

Sep 30, 20223 min read

Is this the end of the road?

In this brief update, Molly wonders whether A Kink and a Prayer will continue.

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